When my husband Julian died, I thought the hardest part of my life had already happened.

I was wrong.

I had met Julian when we were both children in foster care.

I was an orphan. So was he.

We understood each other in a way nobody else seemed to.

We knew what it felt like to be moved from one home to another, to unpack your belongings into a stranger’s bedroom, and to wonder how long it would be before someone decided they didn’t want you anymore.